To All the Single Ladies

Today is a special day for me today 2 years ago my wonderful, amazing, God sent boyfriend became my wonderful, amazing, God sent fiance. I know I know you probably are tired of hearing about all your friends love stories and the amazing men God puts in their lives... but please keep reading. I was there with you didn't want to hear any more stories about people finding the one that they had waited for the one they loved all my friends were pretty much all married off or in serious relationships just a few years ago and I had had my heart broken by the person I thought was the one and I was waiting around for God to strike him with lightening and knock some sense into him. Thank God that He didn't do that because I know now he wasn't the right one and waiting for the one that God did send was well worth the frustration, pain, and doubt I had.

I made a decision early in my teens to surrender my love life to God and to wait on His timing and trust my parents with their advice on the one I would marry. It wasn't easy and I made mistakes along the way and did things that I am not proud of. Like there was the blind date that went horribly wrong and I knew from the beginning he wasn't the right one. (I had lots of information about him before hand that I knew he wasn't the right one) Then there was the guy I knew from being a kid that tried to cross many lines and boundaries and I almost let him do it. Than there was my first serious boyfriend. I had known him since I was 12 years old and seriously thought even thru the other 2 guys that he really was the one. (lots of little things I had convince myself of). I had even just mere months before he asked me out and we began dating prayed that if he wasn't the one that God would keep this guys mouth shut and never ask me about taking a step forward. It was a crazy emotional 8 months that we dated and it was up and down roller coaster. I thought that's what love was and thought that I deeply loved him, but I lost who I was in that relationship and became more focused on him instead of God and so when we ended our relationship I was lost and it took me a long time to find myself and reestablish myself in God. It also took me time to learn and feel God's amazing grace as in that relationship we did cross lines and we ended up sleeping together and even several pregnancy scares did not stop us it was the power of God that did keep us from getting pregnant as He knew the plans He had for us. A little over a year later I got onto e-harmony just to see what was out there. I didn't have any plans on getting serious with anyone right then but I guess it was my fleece out there for God to use and He did. I started talking to this guy and would get annoyed because He would always wait until the free communication weekends were over (I was to cheap to to pay for a membership) to reply back and than I had to wait so what would have taken a few weeks took 3 1/2 months and than I decided that I could cash in on this deal that was like 20 dollars for 3 months and Things took off from there as I could communicate as much as I wanted with this guy. We meet for the first time on Dec. 15 2009 and it took off from there I had a lot of hesitation and wasn't sure after being so hurt before in a relationship I didn't want to get hurt again so... It took me about a month for me to actually listen to God and start dating him and than about a month later I was ready for J to propose so 3 month after beginning to date we were engaged. I know that seems really fast but I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that he was the one. One of the major things was that I didn't have to give up anything that I had prayed for in a husband and that I didn't have to change who I was to make him happy. The core of me could stay the same. I have done some changing for my hubby but its been little things like making sure I put extra effort into keeping the house picked up more than I ever did when I lived by myself and making sure little things that aren't important to me are done for him in a timely manner that I wouldn't do for long periods of time for myself.


Ladies let me encourage you to wait and hold out for the one that God has for you. When you take it into your own hands it gets messy like it did for me. I tried to convince myself that I could be happy with the one I wanted not the one that God wanted for me. I know ladies who didn't wait or didn't listen to God about the one to marry and they are either miserably married or unhappily together with someone or so far away from the plan that God had for them. I am not saying that God cannot take the mistakes of our past and use them for His good, I know He can and He has in my life, I just know that it is so much easier to wait on His timing instead of rushing our agenda and if you become patient and learn to seek His heart and face than you can one day look back on the goodness of God in your love life. I know that I am tremendously blessed because I didn't marry the one I wanted to marry. Example the last I heard about the one I wanted to marry he was living with his parents still (and he is older than me, I am 26 by the way) while I am married to truly the man of my dreams and the man of my blessing and living in a house completely paid for just a couple of weeks away from being completely debt free able to be a stay at home wife and serve with my honey in full time ministry with no outside job distracting us. Wow how amazing!!! (I am not saying that if the guy God gives you doesn't own his own house its wrong, I am just showing the difference in my plan and God's plan and how much better God's plan was for me than my plan)

I also encourage you to embrace the single season in your life because once you get married it all changes and sometimes even now it would be nice to go out with girlfriends and stay out late but I know that my present is truly that a gift from God and I am glad for my single season and even happier for my married season. Enjoy it go out with your girlfriends live slightly more carefree because you do gain more responsibility as a wife and eventually a mother. I know too many women who wish away their single life only to live with such regret when they get married that it ruins their marriage. Please don't be that way embrace it and enjoy what time God gives you as a single woman because it becomes part of the most amazing story and that is the story of You!

Liebster Award.

I was awarded the Liebster Blog Award from someone who I consider a friend that was only made possible by blogging. Wilma at Life In Our Corner Of The World. Liebster is German for dearest, favorite or beloved.

The receipent of this award should link back to the one who gave it to her and pass it along to 5 bloggers who have less than 200 followers

So Here are my Liebster Awards

Wilma at Life in Our Corner of the World

Christy at Fearfully-Wonderfully

Adrienne at Lovng Me Now

Jessica at How BitterSweet It Is

Mary Beth at The MaryBeeBzz

All of these women behind the blogs whether they know it or not have been an inspiration and source of encouragement to me in my life.

SWW 03-30-11

So What If:

• its 830 and dinner is just now being cooked
• I have to go get my new couch in the morning and our 2 couches are still sitting in the living room
• its 830 and I have to move our 2 couches and still eat dinner and get up by 7 in the am
• if my favorite movie is called "everybody's baby: the rescue of Jessica McClure"
• not only is the above my favorite movie but that I have newspaper clippings and have watched almost every news story on her throughout her life.
• it's now 10 and I havent finished this blog
• my 2 favorite days of the week is Wed. & Thurs. b/c of So what wednesday and Greys anatonmy
• secretly I was estatic that is was storming this morning so that my honey stayed home (i miss him when he's gone)
• I have only dated 2 men and I married the second one!!!

Blog Makeover

I was reading a new blog tonight from a dear lady at at our church, it gave me such an inspiration to blog even more and to do a blog makeover. I am impressed with it how it turned out in looks, lets just hope the inspiration to blog more kicks into reality. I am going to start blogging even tidbits like recipes to try, quotes I come across, scriptures or just random thoughts throughout the day. Coming in March hopefully it will also be more productive as Jeremy and I are going to do a lifestyle change with what we eat and start doing a low carb lifestyle. It has hit more and more since we have been married at least for me that its not just about me anymore that I cant live my life how I want especially including how I treat my body another thing is how the bible talks about that our body is the temple of the holy spirit and that I need to treat it better and take care of what God has given me physically, finacially, spiritually, and emtionally. Also being in better shape will help with getting pregnant, delivering babies, raising children and gives me more energy to spend more time with my honey. Also it can add years to my life and help reduce the chance of developing diabetes and heart problems and even certain types of cancer and of course just the over all improvement of health. I am so excited not just for the fact of losing weight but for the fact that there is so much yummy food to eat and not feeling like i am depriving myself of food.

Nesting

I have heard of this happening to women when the are pregnant right before they go into labor, but never any other time. And yet I find myself trying to nest into my new house and its not working. While my mother-in-law totally understands how I feel because she is having a hard time nesting right now as well since all of our houses are in a upheaval. We are all patiently awaiting the completion of their house and once that happens we can move the rest of our furniture on jeremys side of the house to its rightful place over there and I can pack my apartment and move it over at least all the things that I am not going to be using for the next couple of months until we get married. There in lies a challange as well since if I pack the apartment my living room will become filled with boxes and less room for living I can also stack boxes in my bedroom now thanks to my amazing roommate I now have the room to place packed boxes. This move however I am determined to be organized so that each box will be labled and already have a place going into the house and I wont have to have any more boxes sitting around for 3 years unpacked as I do now.